Looking inward and examining certain correlations regarding both my feelings and opinions of people I've known, I've discovered something rather curious: it seems that the amout of mistrust I harbor for a person increases in proportion to the intensity of my affection for that person. This rarely holds for my long-distance/online relationships with people -- as much as I like some of my online acquaintances, the kind of passion of which I speak here is, I think, usually reserved for relationships in which a certain physical proximity (or at least the potential for it) exists (or existed) -- but this relationship between affection and mistrust has held true on several occasions in my past.
What's interesting is that these instances don't seem to obtain before my freshman year at college, which puts me in mind of something else I stumbled across the other night in reading up on suicide -- that apparently I exhibit many of the symptoms of those suffering from Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). Granted, most perfectly healthy people probably exhibit many of those signs as well, but it's something to think about. Anyway, here's my explanation for the mistrust-affection connection: The more intense my feelings for a person, the more I stand to lose if and when that person betrays me (usually by abandoning me in some significant respect) -- therefore, I protect myself by preparing for that inevitable occurrence, awaiting and expecting it. But since I could not anticipate such a break if I truly trusted the person (and thus left myself vulerable), my distrust of the person must increase relative to my feelings for the person -- the stronger the affection, the stronger the shield of mistrust must be to deflect the anticipated spear of betrayal.
And since one cannot mistrust someone without somehow thinking ill of that person, a paradox arises: why should I feel so intensely for someone whom I regard in such a low light? Moreover, do those low qualities that I imagine a person possesses in order to justify my mistrust actually serve to increase my passion for that person? Am I drawn to cruelty, excessive pride, racist attitudes, the tendency to think oneself superior to one's peers, the drive to excel at all costs, even if it means turning one's back on those who care most about a person? And if so, what does that say about me? Hmmm.