So yesterday a friend posted a rant, and there was (apparently, ostensibly) much agreement with this rant, and I posted a response that I intended to come off as more nuanced and constructive (and a little bit playful). I don't know how it went over -- I'm not sure if the OP ever saw it -- but another friend replied to that comment with something to the effect of "read the room." And I've been pondering that.
Now, I don't think he was wrong to say that -- I do think he meant it as a constructive, helpful criticism, and after pausing for consideration I agreed with the assessment and deleted my original comment. (I did later see that a few other people had responded along the lines that I did, albeit more briefly and perhaps less infuriatingly, so I am glad that the sentiment was registered and that I'm not singularly awful for offering it.) But really... even if I had read the other comments and seen that that was not the common thread, I'd still have responded as I did? I generally want to be able to speak freely with my friends, and (within certain bounds of decorum, anyway) I feel I owe my friends my honest opinions. (more...)




