Comments on: Words to live by http://www.wesoteric.com/blog-archives/11-30-2005/words-to-live-by/ The eldritch domain of Wes Fri, 21 Nov 2008 23:03:50 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 By: Wes http://www.wesoteric.com/blog-archives/11-30-2005/words-to-live-by/#comment-1137 Wes Tue, 06 Dec 2005 01:01:25 +0000 http://www.wesoteric.com/blog-archives/11-30-2005/words-to-live-by/#comment-1137 Funny, Omni -- the argument you mention there is pretty similar to the argument that my undergraduate dean used against me on two separate occasions: once to say that I must have done something abominable in order for my roommate to have moved out; again to posit that I must have done something truly horrible (e.g. rape) to justify the feeling of discomfort that one female classmate felt in my presence. Of course, those instances were used to blame me as the attacker -- so it seems that that rationale will be employed to condemn me regardless of my position in any given conflict! Funny, Omni -- the argument you mention there is pretty similar to the argument that my undergraduate dean used against me on two separate occasions: once to say that I must have done something abominable in order for my roommate to have moved out; again to posit that I must have done something truly horrible (e.g. rape) to justify the feeling of discomfort that one female classmate felt in my presence. Of course, those instances were used to blame me as the attacker -- so it seems that that rationale will be employed to condemn me regardless of my position in any given conflict!

]]> By: Omni http://www.wesoteric.com/blog-archives/11-30-2005/words-to-live-by/#comment-1136 Omni Tue, 06 Dec 2005 00:44:06 +0000 http://www.wesoteric.com/blog-archives/11-30-2005/words-to-live-by/#comment-1136 One of the grim truths of human nature is that there's a blame the victim mentality, which says that the victim MUST have been doing something awful to the attackers to cause the attacks on them... although by that logic, the attackers must themselves have done something horrible earlier on to deserve the theoretical attacks on THEM by the victim that allegedly preceded THEIR attacks, but no one ever thinks it out that far. People don't want to accept that some folks are evil, and being evil will initiate attacks on others just for the fun of it... but WE know differently, right? One of the grim truths of human nature is that there's a blame the victim mentality, which says that the victim MUST have been doing something awful to the attackers to cause the attacks on them... although by that logic, the attackers must themselves have done something horrible earlier on to deserve the theoretical attacks on THEM by the victim that allegedly preceded THEIR attacks, but no one ever thinks it out that far.

People don't want to accept that some folks are evil, and being evil will initiate attacks on others just for the fun of it... but WE know differently, right?

]]> By: Naomi http://www.wesoteric.com/blog-archives/11-30-2005/words-to-live-by/#comment-1132 Naomi Fri, 02 Dec 2005 20:48:50 +0000 http://www.wesoteric.com/blog-archives/11-30-2005/words-to-live-by/#comment-1132 Here I thought I was the only one.... Here I thought I was the only one....

]]> By: NJWT http://www.wesoteric.com/blog-archives/11-30-2005/words-to-live-by/#comment-1131 NJWT Fri, 02 Dec 2005 18:19:50 +0000 http://www.wesoteric.com/blog-archives/11-30-2005/words-to-live-by/#comment-1131 Wes, It's even worse than that. People don't leave you alone when they ascertain that you're not a threat. It's when they realize you're harmless that they pick on you. A sad fact of life. You get attacked because you're not a threat, and then you get blamed because you're not a threat and it's easier to blame you than to blame the agressor. F'd up world. But not everyone is like that, and it is possible to filter out who you'll associate with Wes,
It's even worse than that.
People don't leave you alone when they ascertain that you're not a threat. It's when they realize you're harmless that they pick on you.
A sad fact of life.
You get attacked because you're not a threat, and then you get blamed because you're not a threat and it's easier to blame you than to blame the agressor.
F'd up world.
But not everyone is like that, and it is possible to filter out who you'll associate with

]]> By: Wes http://www.wesoteric.com/blog-archives/11-30-2005/words-to-live-by/#comment-1130 Wes Fri, 02 Dec 2005 14:08:50 +0000 http://www.wesoteric.com/blog-archives/11-30-2005/words-to-live-by/#comment-1130 It's not an actual quote as far as I know (or at least I'm pretty sure no one wrote it before I did, though one could probably find some analogous advice in the teachings of, say, Confucius), but people seem to expect me to follow that line of thinking in that they insist that it's my fault that others treat me so shamefully. It's not an actual quote as far as I know (or at least I'm pretty sure no one wrote it before I did, though one could probably find some analogous advice in the teachings of, say, Confucius), but people seem to expect me to follow that line of thinking in that they insist that it's my fault that others treat me so shamefully.

]]> By: NJWT http://www.wesoteric.com/blog-archives/11-30-2005/words-to-live-by/#comment-1129 NJWT Fri, 02 Dec 2005 13:43:24 +0000 http://www.wesoteric.com/blog-archives/11-30-2005/words-to-live-by/#comment-1129 Hey, is that an actual quote? Who said it? Hey, is that an actual quote? Who said it?

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