Comments on: About that court case…

By: Kristen

Kristen — Wed, 19 Nov 2008 21:40:08 +0000

P.S. There is a book in my room called "I Know You Love Me." It's a book about how crazy stalkers think and why they don't go away. OF COURSE, Henry sees Mom continuing to attend church as a declaration of her love. Go in my room, take it to her and make her read it. I am so over this shit!

By: Jaded

Jaded — Mon, 14 Apr 2008 16:55:12 +0000

Wow, Wes... this guy is more than merely creepy. I honestly think he's mentally ill and very dangerous. No piece of paper is going to stop someone who is that far gone. It's really beyond my realm of comprehension as to why your mom isn't more concerned about this. If he's spoken of his intent to harm her to OTHER PEOPLE, he doesn't see anything wrong with it! If he clearly has no sense of right and wrong, then I honestly believe she's in danger, as are you. If he sees you as the primary reason for keeping your mother away from him, he might project that anger on you. I'm not trying to sound like the voice of doom and gloom here. I was just really freaked out by the end of this post, and by the card. This isn't just some dude who is smitten with your mom. There HAS to be another church in your area that she can attend. God doesn't only appear in that one church each Sunday forcryinoutloud! I just can't understand why she'd willingly put herself in danger like that. He's obsessed with her and now she's gotten him in trouble. If he thought she was a snob before, I can only imagine how he'll view her decision to continue sit in church with him. Will it send mixed signals to him? Will he view it as a slap in the face? Will he decide he has nothing left to lose and act on his feelings by force? Holy crap, Wes! I am SO glad that YOU are an incredibly intelligent man. But still... this dude freaked me out! PLEASE be careful!

By: Albert

Albert — Sun, 13 Apr 2008 22:29:26 +0000

Sounds very damn creepy, but I can't help but think "worst superhero name ever" when I read "AIDSman". I'm pretty sure that's the only thing you can call the guy if you either don't want to reveal his name, or don't know it yet. I, like most others here, feel very sorry for you and your mother.

By: Wes

Wes — Fri, 26 Oct 2007 01:41:22 +0000

Too true, Sarah -- and given the nature of some of the stuff this guy has said, I can already see a burning cross on the lawn in one of the more visually striking scenes.

By: Sarah

Sarah — Thu, 25 Oct 2007 23:01:54 +0000

I'm so sorry that you and your mom are going through this!

But wow. 'I love you in a real Christian way' plus the labeled stamps has the makings of a brilliant indie horror film.

By: Wes

Wes — Wed, 24 Oct 2007 17:44:24 +0000

Dave: Right on, though I now admittedly find myself tempted to buy some cat face stamps for the sole purpose of including one -- with the obligatory "cat face" label -- in every single card that I ever send from this point onward. I'd be calling it genius if it hadn't taken place within this creepy stalking context!

And while Mom will be able to press charges if the guy violates the order, I don't think she would. She'd probably say, "Oh, he forgot about it in his loneliness," or voice some other reason for letting it slide. And then he'd gain the confidence to ride by here with the shotgun one night when he can't sleep and blow us all away.

De: No problem! The only reason I recall many of the details of the case is that it was spotlighted on Oprah.

By: De

De — Tue, 23 Oct 2007 17:30:41 +0000

Yvette Cade's case was the one on my mind when I wrote the comment. I had forgotten that the judge had removed the order. Thanks for setting me straight on that.

By: dave

dave — Tue, 23 Oct 2007 00:54:49 +0000

Not that it doesn't reach the tipping point of dangerous way before, but the craziest thing I see here is not the stamps, but the labeling of the stamps: "Cat, cat, cow, cat face, owl." The thing your mother is missing (I mean, one thing she is missing) is that psychotic people don't learn lessons! That's what it means to have processing problems. Like someone needs to learn not to act like that guy!! I don't think the restraining order will necessarily stop him, but it will enable your mother to press charges, I should think, if he violates it. Which is probably a better ending.

By: Wes

Wes — Mon, 22 Oct 2007 18:52:28 +0000

De: Do you mean the 2005 attack on Yvette Cade, or another case? In that instance, the problem was that the judge actually removed the restraining order, which arguably emboldened Cade's estranged husband to catch her at work and set her ablaze three weeks later. But you're right -- a piece of paper isn't necessarily going to stop a nutcase from being a nutcase. Especially when said nutcase keeps being presented with a weekly trigger.

By: De

De — Mon, 22 Oct 2007 15:29:40 +0000

Not to be the King of Bad News, but a restraining order didn't exactly stop that one guy in Silver Spring from setting his estranged wife on fire.